Posted by: dsduffy | October 1, 2011

They are everywhere

A dream I had last night. We were shopping together. Something so simple, something we love to do. But when I woke up, I missed my sister even more.

When my youngest son tells me that the ketchup bottle is “emp-a-ty” I smile, and think of my mother in law, I love that these her presence exists in our day-to-day life.

At the gym, I always choose locker #53 and smile, cause it’s part of my dad’s email address which he chose when he was 53 – I love that about him.

I say to Cameron, “what sweetie?” when I didn’t hear his most recent request. “Nevermind” he replies, with the same intonation as my mom and that also makes me smile.

When Jake smiles at a certain angle, he resembles his cousin Jared. I wish we could see the two of them together more often, but I am comforted by the fact that they share the same genes and have both inherited the same goofiness.

Seeing 6-year-old girls at Cameron’s school giggling together, wondering if that how my niece Riley is when she is with her friends. I’m sure it is.

I am reminded of those that I miss and love all the time. It is comforting, to wake up after a dream, feeling like I have just “seen” them. But other times it is like a knife in my heart, the feelings of missing them seeping in and taking over. Yes I have made Melbourne my home for the time being, entrenched in the routine of life with kids. But on the other hand the reality that we are 10,000+ miles away from each other takes over and hits me square in the face.


Just like that.


  1. OMG, so beautifully written. We all share similar thoughts about each other. I guess that is what keeps us all so connected no matter where we are in this world. So “sweetie” I can’t say “whatever” about this. I Love you more ;0) Mommy

  2. Wow!! You got me with this post! The same experiences have happened to me, I tell you of a few of them, not too many, because it makes us too sad. I long to be with you and shop together. I see your faces in the photos on my fridge when I open the door 1,000 times a day. I am jealous when friends or strangers are together with their sister watching the kids baseball game, then making plans for dinner. I wish it was me picking up my nephews for car pool. Looking through photos of when Jared was younger, I see Jake. My sons enjoying hiking, biking, building and fixing things just like their uncle. J & J talking about the funny things their cousins say and do, they love them so much! I find comfort in knowing that you are happy and experiencing so much while living on the other side of the world, knowing that we all have such a strong connection.

    “Missing you gets easier every day, because even though it is one day further from the last time I saw you, it’s one day closer until I see you again.”

    I love you sister! xoxo

  3. Hopefully, it won’t be too much longer until we’re all together again … shopping, sharing holidays, cousins playing together … just enjoying one another’s company … that’s my dream. Miss & love you all so much!

  4. Hi, I love your blog.
    i’m writing from Connecticut, we are moving to Melbourne after Christmas, . We have a 13 y.o girl and an 8 y.o. boy…any advice on fun family neighborhoods? Thanks! Karina.

  5. hugs. x.

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